[thoughts from ~burning woman~ by Sha’Tara]
Let’s dive in with this quote from D. H. Lawrence:
“Life and love are life and love, a bunch of violets is a bunch of violets, and to drag in the idea of a point is to ruin everything. Live and let live, love and let love, flower and fade, and follow the natural curve, which flows on, pointless.”
There’s so much being said in those two lines. Life and love are life and love just as a bunch of violets is a bunch of violets. We have a saying here, “a thing is what it is and it isn’t something else.” …and: Bingo! Love is love and it isn’t something else. Now then, can we define love? I think it’s very easy: love is an emotion. Therefore love is not any of those other things people (with agendas) “love” to drag love into.
For example, the biblical injunction to love your neighbour as yourself, or to go even further and to love your enemy, and one step more: to give your life for another because of love. Well, here’s why that has never worked and will, guaranteed, never work: you can’t force an emotion, you can only experience it after something else has happened. Love therefore is never a motivator, it is the result of something else having happened first.
I don’t see any problem with that; no difficulty in understanding it. So carrying this on, love then, can only be reciprocal: it manifests only as a result. It is dependent upon a cause. Whatever the cause may be, love will manifest and will carry on the nature of the cause. Hence, you can love your country and kill or be killed for it (a blatant contradiction to the claims made of love) because you first are a brainwashed patriot who has never asked: what do they mean by “my country?” What am I defending, against whom, for whom? In comes the enemy. Can I love my country, defending it against an enemy and love that enemy at the same time? Am I a spiritual contortionist?
Let’s briefly look at the most common type of love: romantic. Two people with the right combination of chemicals acting simultaneously “fall in love” and when this is acknowledged, desire flares up usually to sexual intercourse. It is called “falling” because for those caught in the vise, it is a falling, not a deliberate engagement to a carefully considered end. Certainly some relationships begun as love, continue, and end well. But to claim such are sustained entirely by love is giving “love” false credit. I consider this type of love as a form of suicide… 🙂
As there is no point to any emotion, so there is no point to love. Emotions are exhaust from feelings. We get feelings from a variety of sources, some physical, some mental, body and mind reacting to even more primitive or distant input. Feelings are analyzed and used or discarded. This process creates emotions. The main problem with the emotion of love is, people have been erroneously taught (for controlling purposes and to create guilt) that they can use love as a motivating force. Sure, just as much as you can use your car exhaust to fuel your car. Love is entropic. Love does not arise from deliberation, from rational thought.
Is it “love versus compassion” after all? Once more into the fray, let’s see if I can make this point: that love and compassion are not buddies but diametrically opposite. I hear people say, “with love and compassion we could…” That’s like saying, “with salt and sugar we could doctor our coffee.” Predictably, the result of such thinking, and it is global in scope, is that nothing changes or you have an inedible cup of coffee. In fact to the great dismay of those who promote “love” as the modus operandi for the world’s ruling agencies change goes from bad to worse… always. Yes, that’s always.
What then is the big deal with compassion? Compassion is a power, a source of energy. It is a stand alone program that can be used as an operating system for the entire spirit-mind-body that we call a human being. Compassion is there. I cannot choose to have compassion, I already have it, having been born an *ISSA being. It is part of me, of you, of all sentience. All an individual need do is choose to use that particular operating system rather than those offered by the Matrix, which translates as the status quo or the System.
Switching to compassion as our OS will mean a change of programming, naturally. If you’ve ever switched from Microsoft Windows to Linux you know what I mean. This new OS is lean and uncompromising. It will remove three of man’s most common virtues and foibles: faith, hope and love. Gone. Under compassion, you learn to live independently, as a self-empowered being. The choices you make now are not suggested, they are dictated by compassion. Your choices become non-choices because any attempt to use to old ways will result in an error message. For example, if you are thinking of using “love” in a particular dilemma the message will read: “The concept you are attempting to introduce is incompatible with your current programming.” Then you remember, and you return to your new nature and re-discover that compassion is all you need to approach your current situation.
Advantages of compassion over love: compassion is a part of you, love only manifests as emotion, a johnny-come-lately, meaning it is utterly compromised. Compassion is free of condemnatory judgments, i.e., free of any external input seeking to motivate choices. Love thrives on being told what to do. Compassion is self-motivated whereas love is always reciprocal. Those who speak of “unconditional love” really have no idea that they are speaking of a contradiction, a chimera. There can be no such thing as unconditional love. Can’t be found anywhere on earth, or in history. Compassion demands self-empowerment and detachment whereas love collapses under endless loads of dis-empowerment and attachments. Compassion is never found in collectives whereas, again, that is where love thrives, from the family unit or tribe, to the ends of the empire. You can become compassion by nature but you can never become love by nature. If you are, by nature, a compassionate being, compassion is your life, you don’t need to activate it, or search for it or hope it will be sufficient to meet any situation: you are it.
Love on the other hand has so many faces and levels of entropic energy it is guaranteed to fail at the most critical moment and you’ll have to fall back on other choices. Take that critical moment: you’ll pray, throw money at it, join with others against it, vote and hope, turn and run, sue, demonstrate, give in, change your mind, convert, put up. Whatever choice done in the name of love, if you lose you will experience the bitter taste of loss; you will know loneliness, pain and suffering. You will eat humble pie. Much of that suffering translates as physical ill-health or psychoses, followed by drugs, injections, hospitalizations, the rise of addictions and lack of self-control. Follow the trail left by dashed expectations.
The compassionate being, self-empowered and knowing both body and mind, living from spirit source, experiences differently. We become a bridge between a world’s joy and sorrow, feeling all, knowing all. By transmuting the worlds’ happiness and pleasures to joy, the world’s pain and suffering to sorrow, compassion makes it not just bearable but understandable. This leads inexorably to becoming an empath. Before that happens to me though, I want to be “outta here!” because then “I” would have to feel the world’s extreme feelings and emotions before they became joy and sorrow. Try to imagine what that would mean. Already I feel it closing in.
Nevertheless, due to programming there are likely millions of individuals who would choose to live a compassionate life but never see the dichotomy of love versus compassion and remain firmly trapped within the love morass, the love belief, having to make difficult and contradictory choices on a daily basis, choices which compassion would instantly make for them, equipping them to act in the moment rather that toss and turn the idea looking for some proper or logical outcome which can only exist in compassion.
If I were a teacher, I would emphasize this: remember, it is never love and compassion but always love or compassion. Then, if you make the choice to live a compassionate life, be prepared to lose everything… that you may gain yourself. Here’s a well known parable that illustrates seeking for compassion:
*”A long time ago an important man came to a Zen master seeking to be taught Zen. The master quickly realized by the tone of voice that this rich man was used to command obedience. He listened while the rich man said: “I have come today to ask you to teach me about enlightenment, about Zen.” The Zen master offered to discuss the matter over a cup of tea. When the tea was served, the master poured a cup for his visitor. He poured and poured until the contents overflowed on the table and spilled unto the rich man’s robes.
“Enough!” cried the rich man. “Can’t you see the cup is full and you’re spilling tea all over?”
The master stopped pouring and said, “You are like this tea cup, so full that nothing more can be added. Come back to me when the cup is empty. Come back to me with an empty mind.”
There is another saying that should be familiar to all Christians at least: “Unless you become as a little child you cannot enter the kingdom of heaven.”
*ISSA: Intelligent, Sentient, Self Aware
*Story of Zen master borrowed from: