The Search for Besties and Soulmates

This article by Dr. Gerald Stein, well, I could not properly introduce it as it is, in itself, an introduction to what I’d call ‘the fulfilled life’. Enjoy this wonderful read.

Dr. Gerald Stein

An old Groucho Marx joke tells us, “I wouldn’t want to be a member of any club that would have me as a member.” Indeed, we often find ourselves hoping for an acceptance hard to come by, from just the right one; from a group or person who recognizes we are special: special in terms of our best qualities on our best day. The “other” uncovers us and discovers us as we’d like to be seen. When the connection clicks, we discover he has the characteristics we desire, as well.

Yes, we want a fitting kind of recognition: the key to our lock. True, we pursue enough money to live comfortably. Respect is sought for our good work, too. But lots of people accomplish those goals, even receive applause, yet don’t obtain understanding of their best inner self, the self they want to be appreciated.

Isaiah Berlin touches on this…

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8 thoughts on “The Search for Besties and Soulmates

  1. Woebegone but Hopeful

    Good share Sha’ Tara.
    It’s never too late to learn, fly, strive.
    Never give up.


  2. rawgod

    Hi, S’T,
    I just thought you might like to know Dr. Gerald Stein moderated my comment to him right into oblivion. I just found this out today when I went back onto his site to see why I had never heard back from him. I don’t remember exactly what I said, but I didn’t think I was too disrespectful in my comment. I disagreed with some of the things he said in his post, but I guess he thought it best that I didn’t say anything at all.
    Oh well, I guess that is the nature of the beast that is me….


    1. Sha'Tara Post author

      Hi Jerry, thanks for your comment. I had to go and re-read the article, I had completely forgotten the gist of it. Anyway, the way I look at it is, a person’s blog is their “home” and they can accept or reject any “guest” they want on it. Some people don’t understand the concept of discussion and see all as argument. When that happens (though rarely on WP) I just let it go and go sniff out other possibilities for mind expansion… I’m here to learn, and sometimes to drop off tidbits of information I feel could be useful to others out there if it was to me. Kind of what you do, eh? You may want to re-post your comments to Dr. Stein’s article on here?


      1. rawgod

        I could, but they were more directed to Dr. Stein than to his readership, which is probably why he blocked it. Nothing nasty, just questioning some of his basic assumptions, which is what I love to do. So, once it went to moderation, I kind of figured he was going to block it as I don’t think he likes to be challenged. Why else would he moderate his comments?
        But thank you very much for the offer.
        And meanwhile, I’m still trying to get that other project done, but I am not getting it written to my satisfaction. I’ve got a kind of writer’s block, which I am not used to having. But I am trying.


      2. Sha'Tara Post author

        Too bad, he could have chosen to enter into a private and enlightening conversation with you. As to the other project, that will happen when it happens, hey?


      3. rawgod

        Yup, but you just started a whole ‘nother conversation, and I hope you like what I just sent you, lol.


      4. Sha'Tara Post author

        I will be getting back to you on that, but admit, you sent me a pile to digest and I want to respond in kind, not in knee-jerk. Patience, my young Jedi… patience…


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