Eight Things You Need to Know About Me and the Beach

Another reblog, I know, but… how many times must the “r” word (racism) be heard by an American to finally recognize that nation’s great, perhaps greatest, sickness, and one that can only be put squarely on individual American shoulders? I realize that racism, like misogyny, is a global Earthian sickness, not just American, but since this story is based on American “values” as expressed by white America, then it is an American disease. The cure will not come in the form of a pill, or a vaccine, but in an individual change of heart when Americans (in this case) finally realize there is absolutely nothing to be gained, in any possible way, by being racist; when they finally realize that racism is a root cause of dissension eating at the nations’s sense of “selfhood” and destroying it. This is a powerful, if sad, story. Sad mostly because too common.


May-lee Chai | Longreads | July 2018 | 15 minutes (4,118 words)

When I was a junior in college, my father, mother, and brother took a trip to Hawaii. I didn’t go because I’d been named editor-in-chief of the school newspaper and needed to be at school before the semester started. I needed to get the first issue out for freshmen orientation. I also needed the money. My parents weren’t paying for my college, and I needed every little bit of cash that I could get.

While she was in Hawaii, my mother called me at my dorm to tell me about the trip. Only recently had my mother overcome her severe fear of flying and she still had a kind of ecstatic quality to her voice that I associated with the extreme highs that followed her moments of panic or fear.

“It’s beautiful! This is my place,” she declared…

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19 thoughts on “Eight Things You Need to Know About Me and the Beach

  1. rawgod

    A well-written story, a horrifying tale. I was brought up white. My mother was white. My father hated “Indians!” He was dead before I found out I was Indian, now called aboriginal, actually Metis, part aboriginal, part white. A half-breed. Kinda. I never noticed, most of my relatives were aboriginal–my eyes saw only people. What a shock when I found out I was coloured; I was red. I am red!
    But it makes no difference to me. I don’t know why my father hated “Indians.” I’ll never know now. But maybe that was why he hated me, my siblings… All of us could pass for white… No one knew gor sure… But he knew. I guess that is why he never told us…

    1. Sha'Tara Post author

      Some of us, perhaps in particular those who have experienced the effects of racism first hand, ask the question, “Why?” Why would anyone hate me just because I come from a different race of the same species? There is no answer, only an echo, and we learn eventually that the racist is sick, is psychopathic, and can never ask the “Why?” question because that would destroy the faith in racism that circumscribes their whole life’s thinking. How do we seek out the source of that psychopathy? What causes it? Is it pride? Fear? Knee-jerk reaction to personal and social dysfunction that expressing racism temporarily assuages? Misogyny is equally a type of psychopathy and how do we approach that; try to understand it in order to heal it? These two great evils, while they can be used and manipulated by the system cannot be blamed on the system for their existence: they are individual sicknesses. They only find themselves strengthened by joining with those of like minds and by adherence to a system that exploits them.

  2. franklparker

    Thank you for sharing this, Sha’tara – and thank you rawgod for sharing your own experience. It comes as I’m planning my own post on the subject.

    1. Sha'Tara Post author

      Thanks for commenting, Frank. I am eager to read your thoughts on the subject. A huge question that as yet we’ve found no answer to, or at least none that we be willing to engage freely and openly.

  3. Woebegone but Hopeful

    Tragedy and the horror at this meanness which festers in all group across the whole planet.
    It angers me so much I have to stop here, getting incandescent.

    1. Sha'Tara Post author

      Don’t I know it… why I felt compelled to post this heart-breaking story. Yet I can’t help making an off the cuff observation: Roger, you look so good when you’re glowing! 🙂

      1. Woebegone but Hopeful

        Why Thank you Sha’ Tara, I feel another post on the Lectern blog is on its way. (Although the folk from ‘Patchwork’ are also insisting I spend time there….ah me)

      2. Woebegone but Hopeful

        Thanks Sha’Tara.
        I have to explain to Karlyn and crew that the book might have to sacrifice an hour or so, Lectern beckons.

  4. kertsen

    A very believable record of the pain and horror suffered by those who fall in love outside their tribal boundaries. They tried to compromise with the enemy but this tale proves you cannot make a pact with evil . Oh how I understand that ; compromising is the soft option but it makes things worse in the same way as passing laws banning racism just aggravates the problem.
    Yes Rawgod strikes a chord with the word half-breed ; someone who is not so bad not a full-breed they are half-right. Perhaps we aught to call a person with one leg half-leg to go with half-wit for a low intelligence.
    Ray Kurzwell waxes with excitement at the possibility of a super intelligent human with a computer implant and us mortals will be degraded to sub-human status. He is a brilliant man but does he see the consequences of what he is forecasting?
    I swing back fifty or sixty thousand years when our brother hominids Neanderthals shared our environment and I wonder if sapiens fell in love with Neanderthal and how those distant relatives reacted to the mixed couples. We can be be sure they did interbreed the DNA does not lie.

    1. Sha'Tara Post author

      I am an immigrant and I know all about racism. It has nothing to do with skin tone, language, or religion either. As a six year old I arrived from France, a white, Catholic, French-speaking person to live in northern Canada, in a totally white, Catholic, French-speaking community, yet it made no difference. I would not escape the slurs, the beatings, the persecution at school at the hands of peers and some teachers, and denied academic advancement because of my race. I believe that racism is pure psychopathy and until that is recognized and dealt with on that basis it will never be understood. Immigration just gives the sickness an extra leg up the anti-social ladder. When it comes to mix of colours, is it me, or hasn’t anyone else noted that children from mixed colour races are often the most beautiful people you ever saw? Yesterday I was working with a young woman, half Inu, half white, and she wasn’t just beautiful to look at, she was lovely, kind, soft-spoken but I could tell by an underlying sadness that she was happier having moved from Newfoundland (eastern Canada, her place of birth) to British Columbia because at least for the time being there is so much diversity here that there is less overt racism. Oh, it exists and I’ve run across it, but it’s muted, held back by racists, usually whites, being a dwindling minority. Even so, immigrant minorities do not mix well, and feel safer creating their own communities… so one can see the writing on the wall: it’s not getting better, there is smoke, just no visible flames yet.

      1. kertsen

        Essentially we could call it differencism and that could be due to appearance but there are many other factors such as : intelligence , language , way of life , dress , age, ect. Once someone belongs to you because you respect them and accept them no matter how great the difference there is no room for any form of hatred. To achieve this frame of mind we need to work on ourselves and inwardly convince ourselves that we must not judge at early contact , or by others opinions but only by our own humanitarian yardstick. That yardstick makes allowances for all people we may meet and it is enhanced by our own experience. Self- awareness is also very important and by that I mean being aware of our own faults and struggles knowing we are fallible human beings.

      2. Sha'Tara Post author

        Thanks for that comment, Kertsen. You’ve stated the obvious. Anyone who would argue with this needs to give their head some serious shakes.

      3. kertsen

        We need to keep stating the obvious even when it gets so boring we are tempted to dress it up in the transcendental.

  5. stolzyblog

    One of the best things which could possibly help people regarding overzealous racial identity, and sexism too by the way, would be for people to realize that they have lived many times and will live more times in the future. And these lives have not nor will they be uniform in either race, nationality or gender. Even just entertaining the idea, being open to this possibility, is helpful.

    1. Sha'Tara Post author

      Hence why, I believe, the concept of past lives is so heavily censored, especially in the post Christian “white” Western empires. Divide and conquer. Western and Middle-Eastern based Hebraic religions have nicely teamed up with Darwinist scientism to prevent people from giving credibility to past lives and experiences garnered from such. They want us to believe that we are born as a tabula rasa and all we will ever learn will come from this one life. So, if they control the churches, the media and what’s offered in academia they have the perfect slaves to believe whatever they are told. Without past life information, what can one know of being in a different body, gender, skin colour, speaking a different language and having lived in entirely different cultures?

      1. stolzyblog

        I look at the string-pulling differently. It is true that the West has been deeply (and surreptitiously) influenced, as far as esoteric conceptions go by early actions of what would become the Roman Catholic Church. Especially in the 4th and 9th centuries there were papal decrees eliminating the early 3-part concept of how humans were constituted: body, soul, spirit in favor of a ‘streamlined’ 2-fold model: body and soul. These terms actually meant specific things back then as opposed to their muddiness now, and there was a deliberate effort to remove ‘spirit’ from the general awareness — spirit being the eternal element which would undergo subsequent lives. Because everything took place in Latin, the masses knew only what they were told, and it took a few generations to wipe out memories about reincarnation. But in those days the leading seers and thinkers were in fact often church hierarchy leaders; this is not really the case now. I do not suppose many leaders of teh Church nowadays are convinced of reincarnation and wish to conceal it. Instead, I think the modern day culprit discouraging any investigations of these matters is the materialism which has seeped into western thinking since the Renaissance (a little later), which predisposes people to think that anything not purely physical is imaginary or non-existent, and of interest only to impractical crazy idealists. That said, the subconscious inkling that something else is there in the human picture is alive and kicking nowadays. So a reawakening is possible.

  6. Sha'Tara Post author

    Re-awakenings are always within the realm of the possible – nothing is impossible – but much of it in Earthian societies is a matter of collective consciousness rather than individual choice and self empowerment. Any re-awakening pushed by the collective will always be short lived and accomplish little. Collectives are easily controlled and manipulated; only individuals are the wild cards in the deck and can make the difference. The problem however is that the sheeple, upon becoming aware of a wild card, all want a piece of it instead of becoming one themselves. The card becomes relics…


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